Fuzionistas have you found yourself in this situation when you can say ‘I am still in love; my ex is not in love with me’.
This really is a terrible situation to be in as it is just devastation to be in love with someone and know that they don’t love you back. Perhaps it isn’t that your ex doesn’t love you but perhaps the spark you once had just needs to be reignited. If you are still in love with your ex and you think that he may still have some feelings for you then it might not be too late to salvage your relationship. It is time to sit down and take a long, hard look at your relationship as it is now and also as it was just before you broke up. Ask yourself if there is anything that you can do to fix whatever went wrong and restore the relationship. Sometimes following a break up you need to give your ex some space to clear his head and it is good for you to take this time and clear your own head and really think about the future.
If your ex is avoiding you then he probably needs that time to himself to think things through. If there is a particular reason that your ex is avoiding you then maybe you need to see if you can fix the problem so that he will talk to you. If you’re not sure why he’s avoiding you then enlist the help of his friends to find out what the reason is and what you can do to make things better. When you break up with someone you basically have two choices. You can either walk away and move on with your life, and perhaps this is the best choice depending on the situation, or you can take steps to try and sort out any problems you have and save the relationship. You can make some changes that can help to rekindle the passion you once shared. It can take a bit of work to make a failed relationship work but if you are willing to put in that work it can be worth it.
The first step you should take to save the relationship is to invite your ex out to lunch or coffee just so you can have a chat. Talk about what went wrong in the relationship and what it was that led to the break up. Don’t let him know that you want to get back together with him; this is simply a chat to get things out in the open and to get an understanding of how he is feeling.
Next, you need to give your ex some space to think about what was discussed and the current situation. You also need this time to think things through and based on what you learned from that conversation you can create a plan for rekindling the relationship.
Then, when you think the time is right you should approach your ex and talk once again about your relationship but this time let him know that you would like to give it another go. Discuss the changes you are willing to make to improve what went wrong and if he is sharing the feelings you have then there is a good chance he will want to give this relationship another go.
